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Mommy Scorecard

I did it again.
Unintentionally, subconsciously comparing myself, my lifestyle, my parenting style to the masses. It's ugly, that scorecard you keep. So why do you have it?

How does she get her kid to sit still longer than 10 min without screentime? How did she get her makeup to so flawless? Man, I want to do that. I wish I could be as carefree as he is. How did she get her core strength back post baby?
And on and on and on.

The comparisons are plenty when life gets difficult. We may think that we are alone or the only ones to have suffered in this way. Truth is, you are not alone. We have all been there.
Fact of the matter is, you are where you need to be in this very moment. The trials you endure are building character allowing you to blossom in your strength. Giving you the understanding that He has guided your steps and this is a lesson for this season. This lesson will carry you to and through the next chapter of life. You will be able to share wisdom with your babies about a strength and love you never would have imagined.

This only happens when you let go of the comparing and just live.

I am not a quitter, but today I decided to quit. Today I decided to quit comparing because ultimately it leads to a spiral and we are all different. We are supposed to be.

We want different things. We do different things. We have different experiences. We make different choices.  Knowing this, why would one expect for our lives to be the same. Have similarities, sure, but each story is as unique as the fingerprint.  Our journeys are our own and the worst thing we can do is compare our progress to that of our peers.

#LeaveMommyShamingOverThere

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